The Impact of Unresolved Trauma On Relationships

Unresolved trauma can have a huge impact on relationships, both in the short and long term. It can cause a variety of issues, ranging from intimacy issues to difficulty in communication. It can also lead to feelings of abandonment and insecurity, which can be difficult to overcome. It is important to understand how trauma can affect relationships and what steps can be taken to ensure that relationships can be healthy and functional in spite of it. 

Unresolved trauma can lead to trust issues, making it difficult to open up and feel comfortable with another person. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and insecurity in relationships. It can also cause a person to have difficulty expressing themselves, leading to communication problems which can exacerbate arguments and disagreements. People with unresolved trauma often become easily overwhelmed, making it difficult for them to engage in activities that create a sense of connection and intimacy. Sudden reminders of traumatic events can also be difficult for a person to manage. This may lead to acting out or withdrawing affection from their partner. They may also avoid any type of intimacy, altogether. This can cause feelings of frustration and disconnection in the relationship. In order to help a person who is dealing with trauma, it’s important to create a safe and supportive environment and encourage healing work with a trained and licensed trauma therapist. 

Couples therapy can also be beneficial in identifying unresolved trauma from one or both partners, and in creating a plan to assist in creating more connection, intimacy and improved communication while undergoing individual healing. Healing from trauma takes time, but relationships can still thrive when it is acknowledged and trauma-healing work takes precedence.